Martians value power, competency, efficiency, and achievement. They are always doing things to prove themselves and develop their power and skills. Their sense of self is defined through their ability to achieve results. They experience fulfillment primarily through success and accomplishment.

    Venusians have different values. They value love, communication, beauty, and relationships. They spend a lot of time supporting, helping, and nurturing one another. Their sense of self is defined through their feelings and the quality of their relationships.

     Venusians are very involved in personal growth, spirituality, and everything that can nurture life, healing, and growth.

     A woman has no conception of this male sensitivity because for her it is another feather in her hat if someone offers to help her. It makes her feel loved and cherished. But offering help to a man can make him feel incompetent, weak, and even unloved.

      When a woman tries to improve a man. he feels she is trying to fix him. He receives the message that he is broken. She doesn't realize her caring attempts to help him may humiliate him. She mistakenly thinks she is just helping him to grow.

                                                          Chapter 2 Mr. Fix‑It and the Home‑Improvement Committee

     That is the answer of why man dislike woman who is clerver than him.

     This book explain the difference between man and woman in the view of psychology.

     To some entend,it's eliminate some confusion puzzled us indeed,so that we may be live better by understanding.

      I have to admit that  I didn't care of these theroy before,but along with the experience accumulation,I find that acknowledge the human nature is inevitable factor in interpersonal relationship.Althougth I hate these relation,I must to face various of people that appear in my life.For myself,in the name of god,I need to study.

      I begin to realize that obey the humanity when copy with problems is a wisdom other than a compromise.It's a way to help me to be more free and easy.

      Wishing I can accept more and more things which had made me in hot water,and be more tolerance,magnanimous.

     "Miss is a kind of sickness",singer is Chang, Csun Yuk.I like the rhythm.

      Nearly a month's relaxation will be end,how contented and comfortable they were.

      Got a notebook two days ago.At very first ,I want to buy a red corlor.Dingding said I am a true woman,hehe,wishing it's the truth.But in the mall,I selected the deep blue one.Considering the price and shape,adding some impulsion emotion.It's just destiny......

      The OS is Vista,fresh but slow.Three friends persuade me to setup WinXP other than Vista,because of the immature technial.No choice!So,it take my nearly 10 hours continuous hard work: partition,setup winXP SP1,upgrade to winXP SP2,activate the lawless account,download and setup the hardware driver which the notebook supported in WinXP,setup anti-virus software and update application,backup the new system for recovery......So dedicated.

      There is a beautiful home for my various lovely files,it's time for searching mine.

    My sister gave me a starbucks cup which I enjoyed it for a long time.When Piao came to Liuzhou this June and saw the cup,may be she has temped.

    Two days ago,she said to me that she gave Christina a starbucks cup as a birthday gift.It a good choose for friends indeed,not cheap or not popular.And then Piao said she also want to own one just like Christina's but nobody gave her.Oh,a poor woman.I think I can satisfy you one day.Wait,honey.....

    Three women's leisure time.Eating,drinking,reading,chating and sleeping at a sunshine Sunday afternoon.It's so quietly,naturally.It seems that nothing is important in the past:painful,nervous or uneasy.......

    No matter how,it's an another new journey

   曾经一扇扇推门去试探，用尽力气。现在你知道，所要选择的，也许是选择何种姿态等待。有些门如果打不开，它不是你的道路。有些门即使敞开着，也不一定是你的道路。

    死亡同时让我明白要随时接受倚赖被抽离，希望被破灭，等待被断绝，未来被扼制的世间规则。.......对生活的境遇，我们只能以命运来解释一切，以此最终使自己获得平静。并且依旧相信命运无可辩白的公证性。

                                                                                               ---------素年锦时

    刘婷的qq宠物豆豆昨晚说：“你再让我打工，我就离家出走......”大家一阵哄笑。

    今天佩佩又没有把她的qq宠物哈哈放出来玩，她说：“不让它出来，一出来就跟我扯皮，身上痒痒、肚子饿、不舒服.....尽是事儿，弄不好还要花钱.....”。大家又是乱笑一番。唉，估计我还是应该庆幸：当年没有被佩佩如此圈养。

    阳光还是很灿烂。跑步，看书，吃零食，听音乐，有一搭没一搭的和姐姐妈妈说话，还时不时从音箱中传来佩佩对股市行情的评价和故作镇定的姿态。

   Look these beautiful flowers on this picture beside.It  the cover of Anny Baby's latest book.I said to my friends that I won't buy the book because of the trivial.But I got it today in view of these flowers on the cover.It's my style,haha!

     Next,I can't find the book name of "Golden fish"which honghong recommended.So pity.AlbertCamus,there are few of books about he,I bought a "西西弗的神话"at end.

     In any case,it's a wonderful time for reading,plenty of time,plenty of sunshine and plenty of

 pretty mood.

And then,I got a Barbie-Princess Delia Doll.A gift for a one year old girl,although the instructions said "AGE GRADE :For ages over 3".I think it would be lovely and special for their family.

My sister and I

An incredible beautiful pose

After 20 years

高晓松 老狼  叶蓓

开始的开始，是我们唱歌；
最后的最后，是我们在走；
最亲爱的你，像是梦中的风景，说梦醒后你会去，我相信；
不忧愁的脸，是我的少年；
不仓皇的眼，等岁月改变；
最熟悉你我的街，已是人去夕阳斜，人和人互相在街边，道再见；
你说你青春无悔，包括了我的爱恋；
你说岁月会改变相许终生的誓言；
你说亲爱的道声再见，穿过年轻的脸，
含笑的带泪的不变的眼。
是谁的声音，唱我们的歌；是谁的琴弦，撩我的心弦；
你走后依旧的街，总有青春依旧的歌，
总是有人不断重演，我们的事；
都说是青春无悔包括所有的爱恋；
都还在纷纷说着相许终生的誓言；
你说亲爱的亲爱永远，我是年轻努力的脸，
含笑的带泪的无悔的脸。
开始的开始，是我们唱歌；
最后的最后，是我们在走；
最亲爱的你，像是梦中的风景，
说梦醒后你会去，我相信；
都说是青春无悔包括所有的爱恋；
都还在纷纷说着相许终生的誓言；
我说亲爱的亲爱永远，我是年轻努力的脸，
含笑的带泪的无悔的眼。
亲爱的亲爱亲爱永远，
永远年轻的脸，永远永远也不变的眼。

女声轻而缥的音调，表现了一种高贵而不可置否的感情。

触景生情，而此时，情和景相伴相生出的是往事如烟般的虚无。

A lecturer was giving a lecture to his student on stress management. He raised a glass of water and asked the audience, ”How heavy do you think this glass of water is?”

The students’ answers ranged from 20g to 500g.

“It does not matter on the absolute weight. It depends on how long you hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it is OK. If I hold it for an hour, I will have an ache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you will have to call an ambulance. It is the exact same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.

“If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, we will not be able to carry on, the burden becoming increasingly heavier.

“What you have to do is to put the glass down, rest for a while before holding it up again.”

We have to put down the burden periodically, so that we can be refreshed and are able to carry on.

So before you return home from work tonight, put the burden of work down. Don’t carry it back home. You can pick it up tomorrow.

Whatever burdens you are having now on your shoulders, let it down for moment if you can.

Life is short, enjoy it!!

      from http://www.chinadaily.com.cn/language_tips/book/2007-09/27/content_6139773.htm#

       要像煎熬疾病一样。煎熬过生活中每一个抑郁的时刻。必须要寻求信仰所在。

       那么多人的困境，从本质到形式，都是一样。都不算希奇。也不是困难。

       是。可选的那么多，彼此都差不多，又何必为你赴汤蹈火。

       但不管她是否从年少起就是一个胸有大志，有自我意识的女子，她的感情一直动荡起伏。卜卦的人说过，那都是一些错误的会带来阴影的感情。等到主宰的星宿转移掉轨迹，一切才会好起来。

     她闻到从自己的头发和皮肤之间散发出来的气味，一种陈旧的逐渐发淡的气味。只有一个极其敏感的人，才能闻到这样的气味。重光知道自己已不是二十岁的模样，连气味都是不一样的。就仿佛一只新鲜的刚从树梢摘下来的绿苹果，在空气里搁置过久，水分一点一点地抽干，皮色一点一点地改变，内部纤维一点一点地变形。她不是那种企图掩饰年龄的女人，她不恐慌。
　　她只是觉得任何困顿，即使暂且还看不到尽头，依旧需要平衡。继续忍耐。如同病时疼痛，行时疲惫。时间在走，一切迟早变化。

     人的一生可以发生很多次恋爱，最后能记得的不会超过一两个。一些萍水相逢的人，一些逐渐被忘记的人，是漫长时间带给内心的印证和确认。她一直在陌生地和陌生人之间辗转，内心向来冷淡，相忘于江湖最为妥当。对一些事情的分类有着格外的自知和自省。

      恋爱，也许不过是人人期待中超越生活表象的一种幻术，带来麻醉和愉悦，其他别无用处。热烈地喜欢彼此，交换身体、情感、历史和脆弱。要见到对方，要与之厮守。但也就是如此而已。人体内的化学元素和生理性，注定人对另一个人的爱恋，就是如此短暂，无常。会用尽。会完结。以后的局面如何支撑，要看对幻灭感的忍耐还能支持多久。

      总归想尝试一下，比如住在空气新鲜有土地的地方，养猫，生孩子，种上庄稼、果树、各种花草，每天需要料理这些生命，让它们成长结果。这样身边生命力蓬勃，不会觉得寂寞。不用考验任何来自别人的人性。不用与任何多余的人交往。

     一个人若想拥有在出世与入世之间回转自如的真实性情，该需要多么繁复艰难的提炼。大多数人都做不到。重光觉得自己也没有做到。她始终还是出世的倾向超过了入世的意志，所以她过得不好。

       原来真的是有奇迹的。命里有的，就一定会有。自己会冒出来，不需要任何努力。只能等待。

       任何抱怨都是无用的。抵达了，才能得到解脱。

　　终止一条道路的最好方式，就是走完它。一切都是如此。

                                                                                               -------《素年锦时》